Today I cried.
On and off for about half an hour.
I cried on my husband’s lap.
I cried during my workout.
And here’s what I realized:
For years, I either (a) swallowed the tears, or (b) believed that every time I cried, it meant I was broken… weak… unraveling.
Like Chicken Little, I had this looming fear that the sky was falling—and that it was my job to hold it up for everyone else.
I carried the pressure to be the strong one.
The organized one.
The one who wasn’t allowed to crack or cry or crumble.
(Some kind of Barbie doll syndrome? Polished on the outside, panicking on the inside.)
But now?
Now when I cry, I cry knowing I won’t stay there forever.
In fact, I’m less emotional in the hard times… because I’m no longer dragging the weight of outdated beliefs.
I SURRENDER.
I ACCEPT.
And then… I SHIFT.
I give myself permission to feel it all.
And then I choose the emotion I want to move into next.
This way of living?
It brings me deeper peace. More joy. Real possibility.
Not because the sky never shakes anymore—
But because I no longer believe it’s my job to hold it up.
Tawnya Jacques
I’m Tawnya Jacques, your Consulting Hypnotist, and Director of Hamilton Hypnosis.
Before starting Hypnosis for myself, I never knew how to get past old feelings of unforgiveness. I was living with continuous guilt and shame, fear and mistrust.
My coping mechanisms were to put up walls and to constantly try to prove that I was always right. I felt inferior and controlled by my thoughts, continually worried about what others thought of me.